Be the Authentic You

Be the Authentic

Are you up for a challenge? What would happen if you were true to yourself for an entire week? What if you dressed without thinking of others’ opinions, said no to events you don’t want to attend, chose pizza instead of a salad in front of your healthy friends, chose to work on your project on a Saturday night instead of partying?

I believe that when we try our best to be our authentic selfs and do what we truly want to do, we are happier individuals. When we care less about what’s cool and what’s not, we put less unnecessary pressure on ourselves.

How many times per week do you push away that voice inside of you? How many times per day? Take a moment to reflect.

It’s time to try to let go of all the pressure and commands the society puts on you. You are you. You are your soul. You have a body. You are alive. You are life. You are perfect just as you are. You can improve, but only in the way you want to.

Let go of these;

  • You have to have smart answers
  • You have to have a certain size of breasts and bottom
  • You have to have a certain length
  • You have to be interested in football if you’re a man
  • You have to love make-up if you’re a woman
  • You have to have perfect skin to be beautiful
  • You have to be like your friends
  • You have to get a real job
  • You have to live up to your parents’ expectations

Let go of these for a moment and do what you feel like doing. Who are you, authentically?

I, for instance, am a 20-year-old girl from Sweden. I think that according to the society I live in, I should be studying at university or be an employee at a company. Maybe even both. I should use Tinder and go on more or less serious dates and party almost every week. Make sure my hair is long and luscious, have minimalistic clothes and make up on fleek. I should try to get in to the most fancy and superficial clubs with my styled up friends. Make out with one or two handsome men on the dance floor. Maybe follow one of them home and then never see them again. Save up money to travel in Asia for months with my friends. I should be yoooung and freeee. Also, according to the world, I should be blond and blue-eyed with a hot body but a slightly cold heart.

This description above is of an average girl in my age from my city. And there is no wrong whatsoever. It actually sounds like a fun life. But it’s not my life.

I might be 20, but I feel more like 25. I would only want to study courses at university as I want to be build my own businesses at an early age and also learn from doing. I refuse to get Tinder as I know that it would only distract me from what truly matters to me – family, friends, personal development and career. I party only once or twice a month as the clubbing life can get too superficial for me. I prefer bars with a good ambiance. I almost never kiss a stranger unless I really really feel attracted to them. I think my friends have only seen me kiss someone who wasn’t my boyfriend once ,when we were out. Alcohol does a lot to you, and I have also been a victim of it. But still, I barely follow anyone home as it feels quite meaningless to me. I’m still young and free! I’m also far from blond and blue-eyed (as I’m half Swedish) but I still feel as Swedish as my blond friends. No one should try to take that away from me.

I choose my own path and I always have. Sometimes you feel lonely from doing that since you leave the crowd. But trust me, you’ll find your like-minded. I don’t care if people raise an eyebrow at my choices. If they think I’m too prude, emotional or romantic. It’s my responsibility to myself to follow my intuition and do what’s right for me.

In conclusion, you do you. Really do you. Don’t be afraid to show your real colors. Be proud and those who can’t handle it – let them go. You’ll find your people anyway.

Have a great Friday, beautiful!

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A Perfectly Productive Day

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My loved ones, how has your week started?

Ever since I got home, I haven’t been super productive. Maybe 50% of what I was in Paris. It’s partly because of summer since I, to a beginning, couldn’t sleep since it was so warm in the apartment. I’ve tried to flip my day back to sleeping at midnight and getting up at 8 am, but no success yet.

It made me think of how the perfect work day looks like for me. My circumstances are different now when I live with my family and I only work with my own projects. I think it would look something like this;

  • 8 AM
    • I start the day with a fresh glass of water. This helps me wake up properly and starts to remove toxins from the body.
    • Make a nutritious breakfast.
    • Review my quarterly goals and visualize them.
    • Review my weekly goals and write goals for the day.
    • Do whatever I need to do before starting work. Brushing teeth, skin care etc.
  • 9 AM
    • I quickly review what needs to be done in my 3 areas of work; Happy Careerista, my business and an event I’m involved in (more info soon!).
    • I do about 1,5 hours of Happy Careerista, 0,5 hours for the event and 5 hours of working with my clients in copy writing and social media management.
    • When I feel hungry, I have lunch and a break which is 1 hour in total
  • 5 PM
    • I am now done with work, so I make a snack and hang out with my mother for a bit.
    • The rest of the day is for other tasks I want to complete during the day. I might want to practice some French, research something for my own personal development, have a Skype call with a friend or just watch a movie with my mother.
    • During a few days of the week, I do a Pilates session of at least 3o minutes.
    • Dinner with the family.
  • 9 PM
    • During the very last hours before bed, I want to squeeze in some treatment for the body, mind and the soul without being too distracted by the internet and social media. I’d maybe like to have a quick mini-spa, read a book, write in my diary or meditate.
  • 12 PM
    • I review my daily and weekly goals again and tick off everything I have completed. I love how satisfied I feel when I’ve completed at least 80% of the to-do-list! We are all humans and we can’t predict the future. Some days we feel like crap and can’t do a thing. Some days something occurs that forces you to change up the schedule. And it’s ok! I don’t beat myself up for not achieving 100% everyday. 80% is still a super productive day!
    • I go to sleep with my phone a few meters away. I should just feel relaxed and comfortable. I should be thinking of things I’m grateful for and future events I’m excited for. Hopefully I’ll fall asleep within an hour.

Just imagine how wonderful it would be to have time for so many things in just 16 hours. That sounds like the perfect weekday. #ProductivityGoals

How would your perfectly productive day look like?

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Becoming Who I Want To Be – The Second Month

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Two months ago I started a project. A project to go from being lost and unmotivated, to get back to joyful me and from there become the ideal me. On the 16th of May I wrote down my feelings and my goals for the next coming month of this project in a blog post. You can read it here. 

I wrote an update on the project one month ago – read it here.

How I felt one month ago

One month ago, I felt great. I was feeling like myself again, I was excited and determined to create the life I want. I was productive and kept tracking how I felt every day, I did Pilates, drank enough water, had weekly and daily goals. I was on fire!

How I feel now

As I write this, I have just arrived to Stockholm. I have mixed feelings. I feel relieved to be home and peaceful from the calm and fresh air of my town. But I also miss the buzzing life of Paris and just everything about France. However I feel like I’m on the right path. I’m where I’m supposed to be. I still haven’t gotten everything in order and don’t feel organized at the moment. But it will come! I believe in myself.

What have I done this month?

Week 6 – During this week, I felt like I had a fallback or at least a very reflecting week. I kept thinking about the past. How I behaved. What I could have done differently. At the same time, I told myself that I can’t change the past but only learn from whatever mistakes I made and react differently in the future. I’m not so consistent and I don’t sleep that well since I’m so much in my head. The best moment was when I finally booked my ticket home and felt very excited about this new chapter.

Week 7 – I still don’t sleep at the best hours, but in difference to the previous week, I feel much more positive and I think forward. Monday to Thursday I’m super productive and I genuinely feel great again. I spend the weekend with a Swedish friend doing all kinds of touristy things. I felt good about barely seeing anyone during the week and then enjoy myself during the weekend.

Week 8 – During this week, I decide to be nicer towards myself as I only have two more weeks in Paris. My sleeping hours, the Pilates and meditation are not as prioritized. I don’t do weekly and daily goals as disciplined as the previous weeks. I spend my week working and seeing friends to enjoy Paris and say goodbye.

Week 9 – This week is very similar to the previous one but more stressful with the packing and preparation for the move. Except for that, I enjoy and treat myself. I see friends, have many interesting conversations and a lot of laughter. This week, I don’t do any weekly or daily goals at all. I just go with the flow and memorize my tasks in my head.

In the previous post about this journey I had a few goals for the coming month.

  • Have two more habits consistent (consistent sleeping schedule should be one of them) 
    • X I don’t have two more habits that are consistent and the sleeping schedule is definitely not one of them
  • Feel even more evolved physically, mentally and spiritually
    • X✓X I feel mostly evolved mentally as I really focus on reacting from the heart and not the mind as much. I keep separating my thoughts into these two categories.
  • Have seen as much as I can of Paris (been up in the Eiffel Tower, exhibitions, been inside Sacré Coeur, gone Versailles etc.)
    • ✓ I have really used my last weeks in Paris well. I did almost all of the above and a little more!
  • Have an idea of what I want to do when I get home and have some sort of plan
    • ✓ I have an idea and a rough plan which will be more defined now when I’m home in Stockholm.
  • Make Happy Careerista even stronger!
    • ✓ This blog is really growing in readers, likes and comments all the time. Thank you all for the support!
  • Happily fly home to Stockholm❤
    • ✓ Two days ago I said a last goodbye (for this time) to Paris and France and I felt good about it. I was ready.

So I achieved almost all of the goals. It was still well done in my opinion. But as I’m home now, it’s time to step up my game!

Next months I want to

  • Be back in my routines (sleep, food, training, work, goals etc)
  • Have updated my CV, LinkedIn profile and have a clear plan regarding work
  • Have made some improvements to Happy Careerista and started investing more into the brand
  • Have spent time catching up with family and friends
  • Have re-read my favorite book
  • Take proper care of myself
  • Feel 100% like I’m heading into the right direction in my life in Stockholm

If you managed to get through the whole text – thank you for coming by! Another update will be coming July 4th. Meanwhile;

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À Bientôt, Paris! ♡

 

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The end of a chapter and the beginning of another.

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My last week in Paris has come to an end. Tomorrow is the day I fly home after nine whole months here. Three quarters of a year. Even if it’s not that long, it feels like I’ve done, seen and experienced so much.

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When I came here, I instantly felt home. Maybe it was because I had spent 10 months planning and visualizing it. But really, I felt completely comfortable here. I tried to eat more Nutella in the morning á la France, drink more wine á la France, say “putain!” á la France. I didn’t feel homesick. Maybe because I kept some Swedishness in my life as well.

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Paris will always mean so much to me. It will be a special symbol for me. Not only a symbol of love, light and fashion. But a symbol of my first big adventure. The start of my adulthood. I will one day think back to the curious and passionate 19-year-old I once was and how I used to walk these streets. Or should I say “rues”?

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Even if I have to leave Paris now, it’s not goodbye forever. I’m very open to come back one day soon. I need to be in Stockholm for the rest of the year. Then I need a new city. But Paris, will always be one of my homes.

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Standing here packing everything, I realize how tough I actually am. I feel myself cheering for me. Once upon a time I worked almost 6 days a week, skipped having a free summer, packed almost everything I own and came here. I lived, I loved and went through hardships. I got closer to myself and made the right decision for my own sake. And now I am packing to get ready to take a flight home. I know what I have to do. Going home is not taking a step back. But a gigantic step forward. Why – I will tell you one day.

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I want to take this opportunity to thank all the people I’ve met here. French, Swedes, Australians, Brits, Irish, Tunisians, Russians, Austrians, Americans, Polish and so many more interesting nationalities. Thank you for teaching me so much about your home countries and cultures, especially you French. Thank you to the people who took care of me with pep talk, food and company when I needed it the most. I’ve made so many new friends and tied bonds between not only Sweden and France but between Sweden and everywhere! You know who you are. Let’s keep follow each other’s unique journeys and see each other again soon.

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This experience has made me even more excited about moving to other countries. This is just the beginning of an endless love story with life.


Quotes June 2016

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The biggest goal of all is to live a happy and fulfilling life💜

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Mindful meditation, mindful shower, mindful eating, mindful walk, mindful loving… Observe life. Listen, touch, taste and feeel. Feeling relaxed already?😉✨

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Happiness starts within. You have to be alone and happy alone sometimes to find out who you are, what you want and the rest will come when you’re happy by yourself. Trust that💞

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Don’t worry. This is the turn! Sending you all love and strength❤️

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Who’s feeling me right now?😅☕️ Good morning and have a productive week fellow Careeristas and Careerists!🔥

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There have been so many times when emotions and thoughts have gotten all tangled up in my head and I really can’t think clearly. Do you know that feeling? Especially hard is it when you have to make a choice. Path A or B. Imagine the voice of a guru. That is the tone of your soul’s voice. Steady, deep and peaceful. Listening to your heart is another word for listening to your soul. You have to seek tranquility in order to hear the steady, calm answer. Search your heart and the right answer will be waiting for you there💜💫

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Installing a habit takes about 66 days so don’t worry if you haven’t nailed them all yet. Actually, start installing one habit at the time. It’s not always about rushing but to properly build consistency. This week I’m working on my sleep. 10 pm to 6 am. How about you??😏

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Every day I’m hustlin’. Happy Friday!✨🔥💫
What are your plans today? Working all morning and afternoon to enjoy a Friday night with friends💫

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Are you waking up and falling asleep feeling grateful for your life and the people in it?

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Truth is, I grew up with only the love of a mother. I didn’t have a big family, siblings, a father. I’ve had many good friends but also bad ones. I’ve gone through relationships that have hurt me. But the older I get, the stronger and more open hearted I get. I realize that I crave a love deep as the ocean since I want to give just as much❣

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When I decide to commit to a partner, I want us to be a team. To be best friends. To share our ups and downs. To be able to be 100% ourselves and laugh, live, love❤️🔥

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Relating so much to this line from “Gypsy” by my queen@ladygaga. I’m in a point in life where I have to spend time alone and explore on my own. I don’t want to be alone forever, but I can be right now.

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I just need my key people who support me, make me laugh and love me just the way I am!🔑🔑👯

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Everyone should do positive affirmations. Mine right now is; “I am love and light”. ❤️✨❤️✨❤️

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Happy Careerista Statistics;
Blog followers: 55
Facebook likes: 134
Instagram followers: 8733
Twitter followers: 427
Snapchat friends: 18
Good morning, followers! Have a great grind week!🔥

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Up until around 12, I also wanted to fit in. I wanted to be like the cool kids. But then I realized I’m not like them. And I don’t want to be. I embraced what I truly am and still I’m getting more and more purely me✨

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Match that beautiful outside with an even more beautiful inside!✨✨

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Glad midsommar/happy summer solstice!☀️

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Two Weeks Left

Oh the time flies!

I only have two more weeks in Paris. Suddenly I have to book meetings with all my friends here in order to properly say goodbye. And I have to hurry up doing some things I still have on my list!

This weekend I ticked off a few though; I went inside and up in the tower of Sacré Coeur. I’ve spent many evenings on the stairs, talking about life with friends but I’ve never actually entered it. It’s such a unique and beautiful building. I actually like it more than the Eiffel Tower. Speaking of the Eiffel Tower, I finally went up there too and all the way to the top! That is of course a must do when you’re in Paris. I also took a ride on the Seine. It was a lovely weather, thankfully. I did it all with one of my closest friends visiting from Sweden which was so much fun. We also catched up over some cheese fondue and drinks in the buzzing Marais. Nights like this is one of many reasons I love this city!

These last two weeks will be a puzzle. I have to continue working but also squeeze in all my friends + get ready to move home. Hectic! But I will manage. If I post shorter or fewer blog posts it’s because of this. Hope you understand!

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Instagram Pages to Follow ~ Motivation & Inspiration

Instagram Pages to Follow

There are thousands of quote pages on Instagram now a days. Honestly, most of them looks pretty much the same and I don’t feel as drawn to them anymore. But there are three that really stand out to me. They have a certain depth and long inspiring captions. These three are really worth a follow;

And of course I’d like to give some of my friends a shout out; dysadvantagethebusinessquotes and youngresponsibleone ❤

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Methods for Visualizing your Goals

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I know I keep preaching about visualization. And you know what? I’m not gonna stop!

Today I want to help you out there who wants to start visualizing but can’t find a good method. We are all different. Some find it really easy to just sit down, cross their legs and disappear into their vision as if they are already living it. I’m one of them and I’m really grateful for this ability. I’ve always been a dreamer and this helps me visualize my goals for the future now that I’m an adult. But this is not easy for everyone. Some will feel distracted by other thoughts and can’t really sit still. Then there are some other methods to try out;

See your vision with a vision board

Pictures say more than a thousand words, right? If you’re one of those who can feel all these words by just looking at a picture, a vision board might be the best way for you to visualize. Just find the images that symbolize your goals and put them up on your board. The board should be hanging on a place you pass every day so that you always can see your vision.

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Hear your vision by reading it out

Reading things out loud can have a huge impact on you. Why don’t you write down your vision on a peace of paper or on a note on your phone or computer. When it’s time to visualize, you make sure you’re in a quite space, focus fully on the text and read it out loud to yourself. By reading you will always see it in your mind. Clever, right?

Paint up your vision by writing

If you love writing and you have no problem spending a few minutes doing so, you could always write. Either you write your goals simple and precise or you paint up a scenario of when you achieve that goal. A tip could be to get a notebook just for writing about your vision.

If you want to be go all hard core on visualizing, you could do them all! I do them all depending on which state I’m in. If I’m not calm enough to just sit down and visualize in my head, writing could be better. Sometimes I read my vision out loud instead or look at my vision board. It’s all about finding what works for you.

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Happy visualizing!

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