Are you up for a challenge? What would happen if you were true to yourself for an entire week? What if you dressed without thinking of others’ opinions, said no to events you don’t want to attend, chose pizza instead of a salad in front of your healthy friends, chose to work on your project on a Saturday night instead of partying?
I believe that when we try our best to be our authentic selfs and do what we truly want to do, we are happier individuals. When we care less about what’s cool and what’s not, we put less unnecessary pressure on ourselves.
How many times per week do you push away that voice inside of you? How many times per day? Take a moment to reflect.
It’s time to try to let go of all the pressure and commands the society puts on you. You are you. You are your soul. You have a body. You are alive. You are life. You are perfect just as you are. You can improve, but only in the way you want to.
Let go of these;
- You have to have smart answers
- You have to have a certain size of breasts and bottom
- You have to have a certain length
- You have to be interested in football if you’re a man
- You have to love make-up if you’re a woman
- You have to have perfect skin to be beautiful
- You have to be like your friends
- You have to get a real job
- You have to live up to your parents’ expectations
Let go of these for a moment and do what you feel like doing. Who are you, authentically?
I, for instance, am a 20-year-old girl from Sweden. I think that according to the society I live in, I should be studying at university or be an employee at a company. Maybe even both. I should use Tinder and go on more or less serious dates and party almost every week. Make sure my hair is long and luscious, have minimalistic clothes and make up on fleek. I should try to get in to the most fancy and superficial clubs with my styled up friends. Make out with one or two handsome men on the dance floor. Maybe follow one of them home and then never see them again. Save up money to travel in Asia for months with my friends. I should be yoooung and freeee. Also, according to the world, I should be blond and blue-eyed with a hot body but a slightly cold heart.
This description above is of an average girl in my age from my city. And there is no wrong whatsoever. It actually sounds like a fun life. But it’s not my life.
I might be 20, but I feel more like 25. I would only want to study courses at university as I want to be build my own businesses at an early age and also learn from doing. I refuse to get Tinder as I know that it would only distract me from what truly matters to me – family, friends, personal development and career. I party only once or twice a month as the clubbing life can get too superficial for me. I prefer bars with a good ambiance. I almost never kiss a stranger unless I really really feel attracted to them. I think my friends have only seen me kiss someone who wasn’t my boyfriend once ,when we were out. Alcohol does a lot to you, and I have also been a victim of it. But still, I barely follow anyone home as it feels quite meaningless to me. I’m still young and free! I’m also far from blond and blue-eyed (as I’m half Swedish) but I still feel as Swedish as my blond friends. No one should try to take that away from me.
I choose my own path and I always have. Sometimes you feel lonely from doing that since you leave the crowd. But trust me, you’ll find your like-minded. I don’t care if people raise an eyebrow at my choices. If they think I’m too prude, emotional or romantic. It’s my responsibility to myself to follow my intuition and do what’s right for me.
In conclusion, you do you. Really do you. Don’t be afraid to show your real colors. Be proud and those who can’t handle it – let them go. You’ll find your people anyway.
Have a great Friday, beautiful!