Now I’m all about personal development and being focused on achieving ones goals. But sometimes ambitious people tend to get so absorbed in their own little world that they forget to see the people around them and how they’re feeling. Sometimes someone close to you is feeling lost, unhappy, sad, lonely or something else that they don’t want to bother you with but wishes you would see. Trust me, I know how hard it is for some people to ask for help and support. I’ve been there and I’m still a bit too proud to say “hey, I’m not doing very good at the moment. I really need your presence right now”. Many of us hopes for someone to see how we are feeling and to ask the simple question “how are you?”.
Of course it’s hard to always notice how someone is feeling if they don’t say anything or have a really good poker face. But it’s easy to take a few minutes a week to empower someone by saying something nice. Because a few kind words can make someone’s day!
Tell your partner that tonight’s dinner was delicious.
Comment someone’s Instagram picture with a simple compliment.
Tell your best friend that you miss them.
Tell your mother that her dress looks great on her.
Every day I try to use the time I scroll through my Instagram feed to write some kind comments. I also try to give at least one compliment to everyone I talk to during the day. Make it a habit to make people feel good about themselves. See them. Hear them. Touch them.
Happy Monday and have a lovely week!
I feel like I’ve become an expert in trying to boost my mood lately. Of course I let myself feel emotions like sadness but not too long. Hours of feeling down is not going to be a habit for me. So I try to cheer myself up after a while. Here are some of my favorite things to do to feel better and happier in the moment;
- Identify what you’re “suffering” from or what makes you feel down. Search for videos about this topic on Youtube and perhaps find a good TED Talk to cheer you up. Here’s one that cheered me up once about emotional pain and mental health.
- Listen to songs that fill you up with energy and strength. Listen on repeat if you have to and just disappeared into the music! Some songs that boost me right now are “Can’t Stop the Feeling” by Justin Timberlake and “Alter Ego” by Minus One.
- Writing! If you haven’t noticed already, I love to write. Either I write down my thoughts, how I’m feeling or small stories about how I want my future to look like.
- Read a personal development book of your choice. You don’t have to force yourself to start a thick and old one. You can also get a short but giving one.
- Watch Feel Good-movies.
- Find interesting events with free entrence.
- Invite a close friend, cook and talk talk talk.
- Look for happiness apps, like Happify. It has games and exercices for you to deal with stress, unhappiness, negative thoughts and more.
- Find an animal to cuddle with. If you don’t have a pet, search for a cat café, or ask someone who has a pet to babysit it!
- Find a project and put your heart and soul into it.
I hope you can use at least one of these methods to cheer yourself up!
It happened so fast. Too fast. Can I go back? To be surrounded by all these talented, intelligent and loving people?
On Saturday, May 21st, it was finally time to kick off TEDxIHEParis which had been planned and organized for months. During these months of preparation I had become good friends with the organizer, Sabry Ben Radhia, whom I’m very thankful for. Thank you for the opportunity! I had also been put into the team of 30 amazing people. People from all over the world, with different backgrounds, religions, sexual orientations and professions. They were strangers that became family. I had so much fun working with them during the big day. So much laughter and support to one another. Even if I’m not in the easiest phase of my life, they made me feel so joyful. Thank you for everything guys ❤
The event was amazing. Bands, magicians, performance artists, 9 speakers, a proposal and incredible sponsors made it unforgettable. I will always remember this day. Being part of the first TEDx of my life will definitely be one of the highlights of my life in Paris. It gave me inspiration, motivation, friends and valuable contacts when I needed it the most.
And the after party as well! Taking place at Belushi’s Gare du Nord, I ate, drank, networked, danced and laughed so much. Really, thank you to all the people who made this day and night so amazing.
Here are some of the pictures. You can catch some more glimpses of the talks and the event on the Facebook page here.
I’m still processing this experience. I can’t wait to catch up with the team again soon. We really went beyond our limits. I can proudly say I made friends of all kinds of ages and nationalities and it made me grow.
I can’t thank you enough ❤️
(Kandee, you rock. Keep inspiring!)
The intuition can be known as your soul’s voice, your gut feeling or your heart. When we tell people to listen to their hearts, it means listen to their intuition. The intuition is our inner GPS as my favorite book, “Drömliv”, calls it. It is our inner internet and carries so much knowledge and wisdom, much more than the ego does. The intuition is the voice of our soul. The soul is free from hate, evil and darkness. Your soul is pure. And it loves you. The soul wants the best for you. Whatever it says (what your intuition says), it’s for your own good. Actually it knows what your path looks like. It’s a GPS. It carries as much knowledge as the internet. It knows what you need right here and now to get where you are supposed to. It wants you to have long-term happiness.
The ego, however, is like a reckless driver. Turns and breaks and stomps the gas to gain temporary happiness. The ego is superficial, judgmental and greedy. It’s your ego’s voice who says “your legs look big in these jeans” and other self hating things. It’s not always hateful towards you, but has no idea what the right path is. Therefor, you should not trust it.
As my favorite book puts it; you should rather put your soul in the driver’s seat than the ego. The ego has no idea what road leads to true, long-term happiness. The soul, however, is the GPS which knows exactly where you’re going. It knows how to take smaller roads to save you from obstacles on the way. It wants the best for you, in a long term sense.
Your ego, mind and common sense are different from the intuition. But you can hear them all. How do you know what’s your intuition and what’s your ego? This is the hard part, but fully possible; you just have to practice. Your intuition is always there. But its sound can be blocked by over thinking, emotions and your ego. That is why it’s so important to spend some time alone. When you shut off the world and social media, you are more likely to hear it. Meditation will help you calm down emotionally and clear your head. Ask yourself repeatedly “do I want this?”, “What should I do?” etc. The answer is there. If you’re not sure, keep listening. If you experience a lot of struggle, obstacles and feel nothing but unhappy, it’s a sign that you’re going against the intuition. The intuition will get louder and louder until you do as it says. And then – weight will leave your shoulders, you’ll feel hope and love pouring from your soul.
Example 1 – The intuition knows the true you
My soul knows who I am. I am a girl who likes exclusivity in relationships. I’d rather have one partner than several men. I’d rather share my body with very few than many. That’s just me. Sexuality is a very interesting topic for me, but I prefer exploring it with one person who is special to me. Going in the opposite direction always makes me feel a bit empty and not myself. I admit, I have tried, and have come to the conclusion that being intimate with a person I like makes me happier than being intimate with someone who is just “hot” but means nothing more to me.
Example 2 – What happened this year when I ignored my intuition
This year, I have gone against my intuition a lot. I know that I heard it but I kept ignoring it. And as I described it, it got louder and louder. I got less and less happy. Suddenly, I found myself in a hole I had dug of unhappiness, emotional pain and anxiety. I met obstacle after obstacle. I’ve gone against my intuition in my career, in my relationships and my lifestyle. Finally I started to change certain things about my life. Slowly but surely, I’m getting my old happy self back and the love for life too. I am listening to my intuition as carefully as I can in order to build myself up again. Going against it taught me a lot and I will carry that lesson with me to the next chapter of my life.
Example 3 – What happened when I ignored my intuition a few years back
A few years ago I was in a relationship with a super sweet person. A dream boyfriend, really! He would do everything for me. He had so many qualities. He was one of the most romantic men I had ever met. When I was with him, I thought he was so sweet but I didn’t feel in love or very attracted. I still continued the relationship. Because he was a dream guy, right? I couldn’t be so stupid to give up on a guy like that! But I kept feeling like something was wrong. When I kissed him, it didn’t feel right. When I slept next to him, it didn’t feel right. I started to feel anxious. Why couldn’t I decide? To stay or to go? At one point, I even broke down in tears in school in front of my friends who didn’t understand what was happening. I kept going anyway. Until one day. I felt nothing anymore. I felt like I’d rather study at home than to spend time with him. I finally understood that he wasn’t MY dream boyfriend. He wasn’t right for ME. And if I kept going he would just get hurt. I ended it and – wow. I felt so liberated. The pressure in my chest disappeared. I kept listening to my intuition and I felt like in a flow every day. Positive things came up all the time – good grades, compliments from teachers, fun days with friends, cool opportunities, new exciting contacts… It was amazing to see it in practice.
When your ego is in the driver’s seat you’ll experience happiness and joy in small doses. Your life is like a roller coaster. You’ll have rushes of joy just like you have coffee rushes and then it will drop just like the caffeine does after a while. The ego is a reckless driver, remember!
The intuition has a GPS and knows who you truly are and where you have to go. When the intuition is driving, you’ll experience a comfortable ride. You’ll feel this foundation of happiness within you. Whether you have achieved all your goals are not. You enjoy the process. You feel grateful. You love life. And as people love someone who spreads joy, you will attract more positive things in life. You’ll live in a constant flow.
It starts within. It’s not easy. That is why nourishing your relationship to your soul and inner peace is so powerful.
Good luck! ❤
I currently live in one of the most popular and charming cities – Paris. I have lived here for over seven months and, wow, what an experience it has been! Paris will always symbolize the first part of my real adult life. This is the city where I lived alone for the first time in my life. This is the city where I came all by myself to try the life abroad, learn a new language and get out of my comfort zone. This is the city where I learned so much about myself, life and love.
This is also the city where I struggled. A few months ago, I started to feel less and less home here. I started to miss my life in Stockholm. It made me sad. Paris is lovely. Paris doesn’t deserve this. And actually, is wasn’t Paris’ fault. It was up to me to get my life back on track. I had noticed how I wasn’t 100% happy anymore. And not long ago, I felt like I hit rock bottom. It sounds dramatic. But I hit it peacefully. And I knew that this means that life will take a turn. I might struggle back and forth, but I am evolving. I am becoming who I want and need to be.
I might only be 20 years old, but for a long time, I have known my biggest dreams. I have also known the ideal me. But there have been walls around me, parts of me that were locked and a lot of baggage to work through. I am finally on the path of destroying the unnecessary walls, unlocking myself and becoming the woman I want to be. Only then, I can use my full potential, be a truly good friend, daughter and partner.
I am slowly getting happier here in Paris. But it’s a long way. In five months, I have lived here for an entire year. I will be able to say – I did it! I survived in a country where I knew 2% of the language! I will also be ready to move on to the next chapter. The next destination. Where, when and what – you’ll have to wait and see. The thought of a life there motivates me so much. When I get there I want to have come far in the journey of becoming my ideal me. So I give this journey five months.
For five months I want to work on every part of myself and evolve into my ideal self. Every month I will update you. I’ve been working on this for a little while now, so day one was May 4th.
Areas in life I want to improve especially;
- My lifestyle
- Social life
What I have done so far;
- I have written down in detail who the ideal me is physically, mentally and spiritually
- I have written down what habits the ideal me has
- I have updated my short term and long term vision
- I have weekly goals that involves working on myself
- I have clear shedule for work, friends me-time every week
- I have noted how I feel every day since May 9th
Next month I want to have;
- Improved some of my habits, at least one should be consistent
- See a change in myself, physically, mentally and spiritually
- Improved in achieving my weekly goals
- Improved my time management
- Improved my social life
- Gotten closer to my career goals
- Feel happier than I did this month – wake up with happiness, gratitude and love in me
Why do I take five months? It’s a long time, right? Because sometimes you have to give yourself time. Let your transition take its time. Five months compared to the rest of my life is nothing. I don’t care if I don’t have the perfect body at the moment or the perfect diet – as long as I work myself there with baby steps. As long as I’m there one day. I want these habits to be deeply rooted in me and using the compound effect is a good method for that.
Why do I share this with you? Because I want to be a more open person. I want to share my story, both the good and the less good, the easy and the difficult. If you have a similar story or something to share, I would love to hear. In the mean time…
Want to save yourself from becoming exhausted, unproductive and overthinking? Sometimes it’s actually quite simple and basic to prevent these. Try these five tips and see how it helps you every day;
Are you working from home or are you in school all day? Take a break and go out. Even if it’s cold and rainy, the crisp air will fuel you.
If the first one is relevant to you, sitting still all day might be too. Remember to include movement into your day. You might not have time to hit the gym, but a few minutes walk outside or just in your apartment helps tremendously.
I forget to drink water all the time and that often causes me headache. If you’re like me, set reminders on your phone or carry a water bottle with you wherever you go.
The biggest source for energy is of course in our food. The nutrition in your food will be mirrored in your energy. High nutrition -> more energy. You already new that. But are you eating like you should?
You have to let your body recover. During the night, our body repairs itself and reloads. Sleeping four hours and working hard for 10 hours is not going to be healthy in the long run. Value your sleep!
Are these five in check? If not, take baby steps to perfect intake of air, water, nutrition plus daily movement and enough sleep. Your energy and positivity will increase loads.