How do you define beauty? That kind of beauty that takes your breath away?
Is it a woman with a large bust or a man with a steel hard body? To me, beauty has a rather abstract definition; a person who is them self, confident and happy. The outer appearance can be beautiful even if it’s not symmetrical and perfectly proportioned as according to the norms. A person who has fairly “normal” face and body can still be incredibly attractive with a passion in their eyes and confidence in themselves. A man or a woman can, by being their true selves and proud of it, glow and attract. Maybe you could call it charm or karisma.
So what I want you to do is to appreciate yourself as you are. Everyone says this! But do you really love yourself fully? When I was a little girl, people kept telling me I was cute and that the boys would run after me. But I was also told I had too dark skin to be Swedish (the only country I had lived in). Now, when I’m older, I’m used to this comment and can explain. I understand that this is the first reaction people have when I tell them I’m Swedish. But when I was little, I felt like that comment was sometimes degrading and I felt like I wasn’t one of them. I wanted to change – I wanted blond hair and greener eyes.
Somehow, I grew up to realize that this is so superficial. To try to fit into a standard or to change because other people think this and that. I know that I’m not the hottest girl on Earth, but why do I have to be? I choose to be myself, to love my own unique outer and inner self. I choose to build a confidence and be proud of who I am. If a man thinks I should change, then bye bye. If a man thinks there are way more attractive women than me, then good for him. Don’t think you’ll find true lasting love by looking perfect. Looks fade. There’s a quote I love that goes;
“In the end, it’s not the most good looking people you’ll remember, it’s the ones that made you feel the happiest”
Same goes for friends, colleagues, family.
Think about it. What makes you you? What do people love about you? What do YOU love about yourself?
Three things I love about my inner self;
- My positive outlook on life
- My faithfulness towards the important people in my life
- My spirituality
Three things I love about my outer self;
- My eyes
- My figure
- My way of moving
Now it’s your turn. Tell me three things you appreciate about your inner self and three things about your outer self! What makes you beautiful? x